In today’s dating landscape, singles are showing a clear preference for convenience when it comes to meeting someone new. A recent survey of approximately 1,500 U.S. adults by DatingNews.com revealed that 61% of respondents would not travel more than 30 minutes for a first date. Furthermore, 38% admitted they have even turned down potential matches due to the distance involved.
Anwar White, a dating and relationship coach, acknowledges this trend. Natassia Miller, a relationship expert, agrees with his perspective. Both explain why people are becoming more selective about the distance they are willing to cover and offer advice for those seeking a meaningful connection.
People worry about affordability
There are several factors contributing to this shift in dating behavior. One key concern is affordability. According to the BMO Financial Group’s 2026 BMO Real Financial Progress Index, the average cost of a date—covering grooming, transportation, and the actual date itself—is $189. For millennials, this figure can rise as high as $252 per date on average.
Dating apps also play a role in shaping these preferences. A previous survey by DatingNews.com found that 73% of singles plan to use dating apps to find a match this year. These platforms provide an overwhelming number of options, which can lead to pickiness. However, they can also contribute to dating fatigue.
“When you look at what the app match rates and swipe rates are,” says White, “if those seem low to someone, it might really feel like, is it really worth it to go on this date?”
The pandemic has also influenced this trend. Many people have become more accustomed to staying at home. “I think many of our lives really became home-based,” he explains. “The attitude might be, I’m not just going to go to a random bar and club and unfortunately spend $100 when I could just be at home for free watching Netflix and swiping.”
Location matters
Neither White nor Miller view this change in behavior as inherently negative, especially if it means people are being more intentional about who they invest their time in. However, they suggest taking some time to evaluate whether the travel distance is truly worth the effort.
For example, they recommend scheduling a 30-to 60-minute phone call with the person before committing to a face-to-face meeting. “If the person doesn’t call, if the person calls significantly late, or forgets to call, that’s a sign,” says White.
Location also plays a significant role in dating choices. In rural areas, there may be fewer options for potential partners, according to Miller. “If you’re in a metropolitan area,” she says, “you’re going to have more options, so you can be a little bit more strict in that regard.”
Tips for successful dating
Whether you’re looking to expand your social circle or build a long-term relationship, being mindful of your efforts and expectations can make a big difference. By considering factors such as affordability, convenience, and location, you can make more informed decisions about whom to pursue.
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